Scars come in many forms… Emotional scars can be caused from abuse, loss of a loved one, relationship battles, or a horrific experience. Physical scars can be from abuse, illness, accident, or surgery.
Scars tell a story.
They don’t go away.
They are with you forever.
Time allows them to fade and lose more and more importance.
Every so often, I’ll be out with new friends and someone will say “what happened to your back?” I’ll look at them like a crazy person and say “what are you talking about?” It takes me a second to realize that they are talking about the scar that goes straight down my spine from neck to tailbone. Yes, in 1999, I had a Spinal Fusion w/ Instrumentation (ie. stainless steel rods) to correct my Scoliosis curve. Unless I am in pain, the scar is very much out of sight, out of mind. Although Scoliosis surgery was a traumatic experience, I am educated on how it will affect the rest of my life and at peace with the condition. I’ve recovered from the trauma and moved on.
Emotional scars are hidden under your skin and sometimes start brewing up again if an old memory is triggered or you’re not entirely over the situation that caused the scar. I don’t really believe in “forgive and forget”. Forgive, yes. That’s important. But forget? I cherish memories and believe that everything that has happened to me – whether positive or negative – has made me into the person I am today. In the last year, I’ve learned a lot about sharing the tales of your scars. I’ve felt completely vulnerable. I’ve been unsure if I should break down those walls. I’ve learned that it’s important (and critical to the success of yourself) to open up your heart and let your guard down. Yes you may get hurt in the process, but trust is important. You should always trust. Believe that people have good intentions and trust until they give you a reason not to.
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” – Thomas S. Szasz
I truly believe that scars add character to a person. They may physically make you look more unique, show that you have experienced life, or have educated you on how not to make the same mistakes over and over again. Although scars remind you of your past, they also make you realize how much progress you’ve made with your life. Scars help tell your story.
Everyone has problems. Everyone has baggage. Don’t let your scars hold you back from what life can offer. ❤