#RealTalk

Me - September 2013

Last week I posted this photo on Instagram with the following comment:

 … my today: no shower, haven’t left the house, cleaned my floors, dealt with weeks worth of laundry, 900+ unread email, anxiety over work, Michael Franti kitchen dance party, heart to heart with a friend, breakfast for dinner. None of it is bad, all of it is LIFE. Be who you are. #RealTalk 

Soon after I had the most hearts I’ve ever received on Instagram and an onslaught of texts saying, thank you for posting that {uh, what?}.

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone’s highlight reel.” – Steve Furtick

Let’s go back in time just a wee bit…

I had been wandering around my house for most of the day, every so often picking up my iPhone and strumming through photos on Instagram. I saw Starbucks PSL’s, beautiful pictures of fall gracing our city, people exploring the west coast, posed photos and fake smiles. Well maybe they weren’t all fake, but you know what I’m saying…

I didn’t see pictures of people lounging in their pyjamas, dudes eating cheerios, girls without makeup, kids digging in the dirt or any shocking #whatiwore‘s.

We live in a world where we document – and I love it. I really do.

Why it’s tough is that we’ve been trained, brought up, taught… to talk about the good. If you talk about the bad, then people look down on you and say that you’re being whiney, a debbie downer or you’re just looking for attention. We then forget that we’re getting consumed in other people’s happy place – and start comparing ourselves to this portion of their life that we see. It’s easy to warp yourself into a little bubble of – I’m not attractive enough. I’m not popular enough. I’m not perfect enough. I’m not good enough. Social has assisted in amplifying our insecurities. Only when you take a step back do you realize that – she/he has gotta be human. No one is perfect.

A large part of the reason why I started blogging {back in the day} was because that I knew there must be other people in the world who were thinking about what I was. I took a leap of faith and put myself out there because I wanted others to feel less alone.

It’s easy to feel alone in this big bad world – but when you step outside your box, your life and your world, you quickly realize that in fact, you’re not alone. To many degrees, we’re all the same. Rise in the morning, get ready for our day, tackle life’s ebbs and flows, deal with good days and bad days, feel overjoyed, feel stressed, feel content, feel frustrated, spend time with those who matter, brush our teeth and go to bed. We face many of the challenges, just in a way that’s unique to each of us.

I posted this photo on Instagram because I had something to say, not because the picture was perfect, nor because I was in some sunshine-y mental state. I posted the photo because when I look back in my feed, I want it to be a reflection of who I am.

Everyone uses social for their own purpose, but I use Instagram to tell a story. The story of me, a girl who loves to run, strive high, see the world and make a difference in the community. Life isn’t perfect and I don’t want it to be. The challenges I’ve faced in life have made me, me. To weed through my story and pull out the challenges/negative/whatever-the-hell-you-want-to-call-it would be doing me a disservice. I don’t want to be known as the girl who had it easy. I don’t want to be known as the girl online who is a totally different person in real life. I don’t want to be known as the one who put her superficial self out to the world. I want to be known as the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, pushes boundaries, voices her opinion and adds value to the world. Yep, that girl. That’s the one I’m working towards.

We all get caught in the vortex of social, sharing and editing a photo so it looks oh so perfect. It’s easy and we’re human. My challenge to you {and me} is… get comfortable showcasing the real you. Forget about what people will think. Forget good. Forget bad. Focus on YOU. If you are your true, authentic, real deal self, that is the person that the world is going to fall in love with. Promise.

Be who you are.

0 Comments

  1. Nicole November 3, 2013

    Love.

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  2. Kat November 3, 2013

    Always a great inspiration!

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  3. Jennifer Massie Jensen November 3, 2013

    Thanks Jillian! So True <3

    Reply
  4. Justin November 3, 2013

    I’d better pick up some cheerios!

    Reply
  5. youthfuldragon November 3, 2013

    Ah-mazing post. Thank you.

    Reply
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