expectations

Quite a few times in the last few weeks, I have said I am disappointed.  Whether it was in a friend, a situation, or myself – as far as I’m concerned, this feeling of disappointment has been happening way to often.  Expectation or hope often ends in disappointment.  So why have those expectations?

I put a lot of faith in others.  As naive as it sounds, I would like to believe that most people in this world are giving, loving, supportive, compassionate, fantastic people.  They respect others and are honest.  They are dedicated to their jobs, the community, and their friends/family.  They give everything they have to make a difference in this world. They want to be known and remembered as “being exceptional”.

The concept of “being exceptional” has been a running joke… well kinda ;) … amongst a few of my girls for the last year or so.  We used to complete a task or behave a certain way and get applauded for our efforts.  But we were sitting there thinking – why? We just did what anyone else would have done…

Apparently not. We were continually going above and beyond.  Being exceptional means taking risks, following your dreams, and having a positive mindset.  It has nothing to do with money, education or a perfect job/spouse/life.  Not everyone strives to be exceptional in this world, nor wants to go anywhere near the word.  I didn’t start striving for “exception-ality” on purpose… it just happened.  One day someone just recognized my behaviours as out of the norm.  So what’s normal? I have no idea which is obviously part of the problem.

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

I cannot decide peoples actions nor predict when something bad is going to happen.  Bad things happen all the time. Rather than being continually let down by what might be “unrealistic expectations” of people or situations, I need to adapt.  Why have expectations of your friends or situations?  It really makes no sense to as the majority of the time their actions are out of your control.

“If friends disappoint you over and over, that’s in large part your own fault. Once someone has shown a tendency to be self-centered, you need to recognize that and take care of yourself; people aren’t going to change simply because you want them to.” – Oprah Winfrey

Just because people and situations might not live up to my expectations, doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t stop from achieving them. ❤  Friends will come, friends will go, but at the end of the day you need to be accountable to yourself.

Life is all about learning.  How do you want to be remembered?

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