blue valentine

Months behind the masses, I finally had a chance to watch Blue Valentine.

Did this film make the whole planet sad?

I think so.



Something to think about…

Dean: “I feel like men are more romantic than women. When we get married we marry, like, one girl, ’cause we’re resistant the whole way until we meet one girl and we think I’d be an idiot if I didn’t marry this girl she’s so great. But it seems like girls get to a place where they just kinda pick the best option… ‘Oh he’s got a good job.’ I mean they spend their whole life looking for Prince Charming and then they marry the guy who’s got a good job and is gonna stick around.

Know a man and woman who think like this? Me too. :/

Movies are often built on fairy tales. This movie was built on real life — the raw truth of so many relationships.

Random things in life keep on reinforcing the fact that I need to hold onto my high expectations — that it will be detrimental for me to lose sight of them. In the last 18 months I have learned so much more than I ever imagined about men, relationships and what’s important to me. Last month I spent a few hours with an exceptional person. We were on the topic of relationships and he said, “I’m not looking for a passenger, I’m looking for a co-pilot. Someone who will continually motivate and inspire me to be the best person I can be.” The thought of a couple continually driving each other to be their best selves absolutely warms my heart. In fact, I would be surprised if I settled for anything less.

With love. Real love. Me. ❤


  1. livingnowalways July 24, 2011

    Great post! Real love if something so real, so concrete, that when it happens, it takes over and recreates your vision. I believe love can be fleeting or permanent, but real love is driven by both. Driven in a way that neither of them can stop.

  2. Michelle Berg July 24, 2011

    When my husband and I got married 12 years ago – it was real love. I was 20. I wasn’t settling. In fact most said – “Why get married now? You have all the time in the world.” It was raw and intense and magical – that’s why. It was what I always imagined love to be.

    I will admit this – in almost 13 years together – you lose that rawness and you end up comfortable. I don’t think the challenge is finding raw, passionate love – it’s knowing that when you hit those dull moments both of you will have the perseverance to make it raw and passionate again. I’m proud to admit we hit our lowest low, but have made it to become a really strong couple again. But it takes, without question, perseverance.

    Blue Valentine depressed me without question. I think she had raw love in the beginning – but also left a bad situation without enough time for self-reflection…which happens way too often. Girls tend to jump from one relationship to the next – so as long as you have a solid understanding of who you are – and love yourself – then finding love is that much easier (and the chances of settling aren’t there either!)

    The other thing a person needs to find love (in my opinion) is reckless abandonment. Those that need to control every move and situation rarely find it. Caution or being cautious when it comes to love gets rid of passion and excitement and intensity. Which is the most fun thing about being in love.

    As always, J, good blog :)

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